One of the things that has always perplexed me in the argument over abortion is the claim made by women to say, “unless you have a woman’s reproductive parts, you should keep your f**in mouth shut about her reproductive rights”.
While I certainly support the right of any human to exercise total authority over their own body, even to include suicide, the fact of pregnancy involves two entities – the developing fetus, and the Father. Yes, I said it. I went there. The Father!
Not all of the other 50% of the progenitors of our species are in the class of “lights out and I’ll be gone before the sun comes up”. In my own life, I’ve impregnated two women years prior to meeting my now ex-wife. In both cases, I feel I was denied my right to keep my unborn children, but I’m rational enough to acknowledge that it’s complicated.
If I had my way, and we had the technology, I would have had the developing fetus removed and placed in a laboratory environment. The mother would have signed away any and all rights to the child the same as she would if she were to place her child up for adoption.
If you think about it, the procedure of abortion involves about the same effort and invasion of a woman’s body to permanently halt the development of the fetus, as it would be to remove that fetus and keep it in an artificial environment where it can complete its development to a point where it is considered alive by the law. This is, of course, assuming a human can legally be brought from conception to legal life in a laboratory environment.
Who knows what my life may have been as a single father. I was certainly too young and immature to be a parent. But is anybody really mature enough to be a parent? I’ve seen incredibly mature young parents, and in incredibly stupid older parents. In my case, I guess we’ll never know. In both cases I was denied my right to find out.
While I respect a woman’s right to make decisions concerning her own body, in the cases of pregnancy, I think the rights of the Father need to at least be considered. Her rights should not trump his rights. And his rights should not trump her rights. There is a solution for both. Science has the answer, if the religious zealots would just get out of the way.
Of course, my views have nothing to do with the rights of a male perpetrator over his victim in the case or rape, incest, or pedophilia. Let’s just be clear about that. I’m talking about a pregnancy that is the result of a legally consensual sexual encounter.
This is my personal view.